It’s not possible to have a neutral religious, ethical or political influence on our children, nor should it be. Instructing our children in the traditions, myths and values of our forefathers is a large part of what makes us human. Respect, tolerance and appreciation of other traditions is all we can realistically demand of parents if we are to thrive in a multi-cultural society. I believe that my worldview is as compact and rational and non-delusional as i can get it as of today (as does everyone), so i’ll raise my kids in that spirit. When they are older, then other traditions will have an influence on them and they may reject my world view (though that’s statistically quite unlikely). It’s not like a Muslim parent thinks ‘well i know that most of this stuff i believe is dubious, but I’ll make my child believe it too, to validate it for me’. People are generally sincere, and care about their children.
We can though be honest with ourselves and confess that a great deal of our religious, ethical and political views are in fact learned from parents and respected elders rather than exclusively objective and rationally attained. The committed Christian or Hindu needs to be take a step back and realise that those metaphysical and historical stories he holds true would seem bonkers and naive had he been raised by Mr & Mrs Khan from Number 43 and visa versa. Everyone of course thinks that their personal views on maters of life, ethics and relationships are ‘correct’ or they would change them. So why would they not instruct their loved ones likewise?
The labels are handy, they are informative.
PS: the writing of this brings one thing to the fore in my mind, not that we shouldn’t raise our children in a likeness of us, but that we should be extra concerned about who we are and what we believe, as it reverberates down though the generations. Quite a responsibility.
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